I am blown away by all of the comments/emails/texts/facebook messages I have gotten about my post on Infertility. This is truly an issue that is so deep and private that sometimes even the closest friends and family do not know a couple is dealing with it. The responses I have had proves that.
I received one email that was from a different point of view so I feel like I need to address it on here. My blog has never been meant to be anything other than a log of memories for my family. I have intentionally stayed away from political issues or things that might cause debate.
The email was from a mom who had no trouble conceiving her child and was hurt that poem suggested people who had problems were better mothers. I don't believe that is what the poem means at all. I believe it means that while you have trouble having a child, you look at everyone around you and every single person you know and think that you CAN be better. It is almost like a promise to God if he will just let you have a baby.
I remember hearing moms complain about not getting any sleep when they had a newborn or how uncomfortable they were when they were pregnant. Inside, my heart would break and I would say "I will NEVER complain about lack of sleep or being miserable because I want a baby that bad!" Wanting a baby and not having one gives you a completely different perspective of motherhood. You are grateful for things that annoy some people. Better mother? No! An aware mother? Yes!
So, this is my official apology if anyone else is/was offended by the poem. I did not write it but it did touch me. And, it has opened a line of communication between me and 20 + women who are hurting/struggling. For that, I am grateful.
P.S. I think every mother should think she is a better mother than her friends/family. I think that is a good thing. It causes you to be in a constant state of evaluation of who you are!