Saturday, March 22, 2008

Time Out Mat

We have dubbed the rug in front of the front door "THE TIME OUT MAT!" While we don't expect Jonah to fully understand what that means right now, we have begun using it for 20-30 seconds to allow us to remove him from any situation that isn't going the way it should be. We put him there the first time a couple of weeks ago and he was so upset. I don't necessarily think it was because of the mat but more because we made him quit throwing his toys. We are trying to help him understand that it is okay to throw a ball but not a toy. That is a tough thing to teach a little boy when many of his toys are balls.

Sometimes when he is playing, he gets VERY frustrated because the toy doesn't do exactly what he wants it to do. (ie, blocks don't stay stacked after he put them where he wanted them) When something like this happens, he takes the block that fell and chunks it across the room out of anger. This is not a behavior that we want to see continue so we always remove him from the toys and talk to him about not throwing his toys. That worked for a little while but now it just seems to fire him up even more. So, we started using the time out mat.




I think it is actually working pretty well. AND, don't let that face fool you. He is there for less than a minute each time. The reason I feel like we may have stumbled across a tactic that works well for us is because yesterday, Jonah threw his bowl of cheerios after he tipped the bowl and some fell out. (I'm telling you, the kid is a perfectionist and does not handle things well when they don't go according to his plan!!!) Anyway, after he threw the bowl, he looked at me, put his head down and went and sat on the mat. HA! After he had been there 20 or 30 seconds, I sat next to him and told him why we don't throw things. Then, we got up and played...HAPPILY EVER AFTER! :-)


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3 comments:

Jeff, Abbey, and Reed Land said...

I think that SuperNanny would call it a Naughty Mat!

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Baylee's Mommy said...

I remember your post about re-direction(??). Meaning directing children's attention to something else as to keep them out of things they aren't suppose to be into. We are there now :) No time outs yet but I know they are growing near!

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