And, because I'm aware of it, I'm determined to not do that to my kids. It is an internal struggle. It is easier to convince them to do things my way than to let them have a mind of their own. But, part of becoming the people God wants them to be is learning to make decisions and live with the consequences. (even if there isn't a lot at stake!)
So, that brings me to Halloween. This was a big year for me. I put aside my own wishes and let my kids be who they wanted to be. I made gentle suggestions. I pled my case. In the end, I lost. Actually, where Jonah was concerned, we had a great compromise. Someone reading this might think "Seriously, you are devoting a blog post to your kids choosing their own costumes? Big deal!" But, you should understand that in the years that I longed to be a momma, I had big dreams about costumes. And, a generic costume from Wal-Mart wouldn't fit into those dreams. (except, now they do and it wasn't Wal-Mart but Target!)
Jonah's years in costumes that I picked were so stinkin' cute! Seriously, he was an original and totally rocked them! Except for the first year when he was a pea in the pod but that was due to my poor planning. Those costumes are everywhere for infants but I still stand by how cute it was/is. I'd choose it again. (Assuming the Jack in the Box I wanted was still sold out!)
Seriously, our costumes have been so cute over the years...take a stroll down memory lane with me.
|2006- A Pea In The Pod for Trunk or Treat @ FBC, Vidalia|
|2007- Cat In the Hat for Trunk or Treat|
|2007- A Skunk for Preschool|
|2008- A Hotdog for Trunk or Treat|
|2008- A UPS Man for Preschool|
|2009- Peter Pan for Mickey's Not So Scary Halloween Party|
|2009- Pirate for Trick or Treating|
|2009- Cowboy for the Fall Festival at Stetson Baptist Church|
|2010- Boxer for Trick or Treating AND The Fall Festival at Stetson Baptist Church|
|2011- Star Wars for Trick or Treating|
|2012- Spider Man and The Spider|
Jonah stuck with Iron Man. Not just Iron Man but the same Iron Man that every other kid had. Micah changed his mind and chose Jake. Then, I got the idea that Jonah should be Captain Hook. How cute would that be? But, Jonah said No. (several times!) When I was working the JBF Consignment Sale, I ran across a bright orange Astronaut costume. He had actually mentioned being an Astronaut or Scientist so I took a picture and text it to my friend Susan because Jonah was with her.
I got it that day and he LOVED it when he saw it. He was seriously thrilled! And, I was thrilled. Not because he chose one I liked but because he chose one that he really loved. (And, maybe a little because it was only $15 but was a really nice costume!) So, for the first time ever, there was no theme, there was no coordination and there were no mail-order costumes. But, there were really big smiles and lots of fun. And, a mom who is learning to let things go that don't really matter and focus on what does...THE MOMENT!